"What the ef are you talking about?"
"Yo! Why don't you fuckin' curse?"
Thats the reaction I usually get whenever I need to curse but put in a substitute rather than say the real thing.
The reason for my censoring was that I find value in the abstinence of cursing for some reason. I just don't find I like saying it. It can easily be substituted for a lot of things and it almost limits your vocabulary if it becomes to regular in your daily speech. I grew up in a neighborhood where no one really cursed at all. My parents never cursed unless they were really angry at something, and my friends never cursed, so I never really learned to use it in my vocabulary.
"I just don't"
Thats usually how it goes. It seems that practically everyone I meet is comfortable with cursing. I don't know. I just can't do it. Is that necessarily a bad thing? Not really. though it is not normal considering the amount of people that are fine with it. Though when you think about it, tons of singers and rappers curse, as well as people in the movies.
As a movie lover I see a lot of different movies from G to R and the characters could be anything from cursing only once in the entire movie (to keep the MPAA rating down), or they could be rattling off swear words like it doesn't matter them. Though the use of cursing can make the scene very dramatic, or it can make the scene hilarious like in the movie Friends with Eddie Murphey.
“Oh mutha fucka you can have my cornbread thats for damn sure! Cause if you try and take my cornbread part two of my killin’ spree gon begin up hea on yo ass right now. No fuck him, fuck that cause I’m from new york city god damn it!”. Very funny indeed. And it adds comedic value. The cursing in that movie has a purpose.
I guess I have the sense that if you are arguing something and you are swearing a lot, it just makes you appear angry and not know what you are talking about. Like when a student at SLA got mad at me and started yelling and cursing at me, it just made him appear more funny rather than threatening. And I didn’t really listen to him because all the cursing just seemed like he was venting. Here is part of the exchange of words.
“You know you kind of need to stop swearing so much. Its kind of annoying.”
“Bitch I will motha fuckin curse whenever the fuck I wanna.”
And another person yelled at me like this.
“yo why you so fuckin annoying, nobody fuckin likes you. Fuck off before I fuckin smack you!”
Their arguments completely lose their power when they employ those kind of words into their sentance.
In the essay "If Black English Isn't a Language, Then Tell Me, What Is?" the author says that language "reveals the private identity, and connects one with, or divorces one from the larger, public, or communal identity. For me, it divorces me from the rest if the population and reveals the private identity of me. One that I cannot hide for some reason. It divorces me in a weird way. Like a Christian in a room full of jews or something like that. And adapting it would make life a bit easier.
The fact that I don't curse is one of the highly noticeable differences between me and the rest of the human population attending SLA.
Thought when you think about it, those words are just sounds produced by our mouths to form a sound that other people have heard and can tell what the person wants from those words. though thats the point. The curse words, those particular sounds formed represent something bad, rude, hurtful, or mean, and therefore that word is referred to as a bad word. And thats why I don’t use it. And just like with speaking with different accents, where some accents put off other people and change the way they think about you, cursing can make you appear unintelligent and mean and rude.